Mama Bear...

I am.  A Mama bear.  I admit to it.  Some people may think I'm "crazy mom," but you know what?  I don't care.  I absolutely LOVE my kids and would do anything to protect them.  I am a jealous mom too!  And do you know what?  I don't care either!  I am their mom.  No one else.  I will always be THEIR MOM.

Where is this coming from?  UGH.  What a day... It has actually been building from a few weeks or few incidences or comments which have built up and built up, where I have finally had to speak up.  I didn't want to seem "crazy" or like a "mama bear" or "jealous." But you know what?  I am.  I can admit it.  It IS who I am.

I hired a house keeper/mothers helper, "A,"  a couple months ago.  We definitely need help to care for this much larger house.  From the beginning, since I gave birth to my boys, I have NEVER wanted help with my babies.  However, if I am caring for my twins, I DO need help with laundry and cleaning.  Maybe someone to make a bottle every once in a while or to watch them if I need to run an errand or go to the gym... WHICH I ONLY DO WHILE THEY ARE NAPPING!  I like to be the one to put them down and be the one who they see when they wake up.  I do understand that sometimes that doesn't happen and they will wake up before I get home.  That's fine.

What has been bothering me...

1) When A, says, "how are MY babies doing?"

2) When A, suggests I make food a different way than what I am doing for my boys.
                                               
3) When A, says to Rocco, "A makes the BEST bottle EVER!" I overheard this one when I was upstairs changing Maximus's diaper.  I then told Maximus, "No, Mommy makes the best bottle ever!"
                                               
4) When A tries to step in and take one of my babies to change their diaper.
                                               
5) When Asteps in at any time I do not ask for help. UGH!

There are more, but this has been the past week.  Now, don't get me wrong, she is an amazing house keeper.

So, I had to get it off my chest.  I know she felt bad and I am sure meant no harm, but I cannot help how I feel.

Being a mother is MY job.  Being a helper is HER job.  It has been a slow process and she has slowly been trying to mother MY boys.  There is only room for ONE mother in this house.  That is ME.

Boundaries were crossed.  I did set this expectation in the beginning.  I feel bad that she is hurt, but I do not feel bad for being a Mama Bear.

P.S.  C and I had a fabulous Anniversary!  Thank you for all the wishes!  We stayed at the Ritz in Laguna and it was perfect!

                                 

Moms of Multiples groups...

Not sure if I posted this, but C and I went to our first baby class at the hospital a little over a week ago.  It was the "scary class" as the teacher called it.  It was really called the Baby Savor class, because it went over CPR, choking, baby proofing, etc.  As a teacher, I have to be CPR certified, however taking this class was a good refresher and I highly recommend it to any new parent or anyone who plans on babysitting your children.

At the class there were three mom's of twins (including myself).  One of the mom's, Kristine, already had her twins, but was unable to take the class prior to birth because of being put on bed rest.  She was so nice and introduced herself to us and invited me to join the OC Mom's of Multiples group.  I've been told how good it is and that I should really look into it.  I had gone on the website a few times, but that's about it.  Well Kristine is taking me to my first meeting Thursday evening!  She said its a great way to meet friends, get support from those who have "been there done that," get discounts ($$) on products, ask questions, etc.  So, I'm going to check it out!

I know there are groups all over, so if any of you are expecting more than one, I would definitely look into it! 


Here is a link to find a group in your area:  National Organization of Mothers of Twins Club